Peter Mosgofian – Power Sex and Shame: Overcoming Sexual Exploitation

Drawing on years of experience in family counseling and pastoral guidance, Peter Mosgofian, collected the dynamics of all kinds of sexual exploitation and ways to overcome in Power Sex and Shame: Overcoming Sexual Exploitation. As stated in the title, power and shame are at the root of addictions and failure in a variety of settings reaching from dysfunctional families, churches, cults, office to sports, modern caliphates, and sex workers. Sexual exploitation by both men and women is a pervasive problem worldwide. The book addresses backgrounds and root causes and showcases amazing stories. Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky are extensively used as examples because the case is well documented and made public.

Having achieved wealth, status, stature, and fame, what’s left? For all too many men and for some women, what’s left is the desire to use their power and position to fulfill their unbridled sexual lust. Coming out and asserting sexual harassment, misconduct, or exploitation means becoming vulnerable to emotional, psychological, professional, social, financial, and legal harm. Not something to dismiss easily or think that a single prayer or 12-steps program can erase.

Grief stages, careful counseling, and a fundamental understanding in order to be able to effectively help who cross forbidden sexual boundaries either as a victim, offender, or part of a larger system. Every relationship of trust involves some degree of struggle with the dynamic interplay of the forces of love, sexuality, and power. It is imperative that our sexuality come under the ultimate dominion of healthy design if it is to be expressed in a manner that heals rather than harms.

About the author
In this essential and challenging work, Power, Sex and Shame: Overcoming Sexual Exploitation, author Peter Mosgofian calls on his extensive, and often heartbreaking, four-decades-long career in family counseling and pastoral guidance to examine the tragic sexual exploitation crisis America currently faces. Providing insights only the eyes and heart of one whose professional life has been spent at the center of the storm could access, we are asked to bear witness to the unfathomable anguish and soul-damage the abuse of power and position so commonly assert on our most innocent and defenseless.

That this crisis persists in every community, across the economic spectrum, despite its wide exposure in the nightly news, might be its most disturbing and damnable component. It is this fact that the author wrestles with most, especially since much of what he has observed occurs not within the highly publicized glamour of Hollywood or Wall Street’s executive suites, but under the supposed safety of therapeutic and pastoral auspices. In these quiet havens, where intimacy and vulnerability are the life-blood of successful, in particular, trust seems the most abhorrent. This phenomenon in particular reveals the frailty of human nature, even among the most educated and empathic professional. And is an awakening for all of us, not of evil, but of illness, where the treatment demands not more law, but more love.

These real-life examples expose just how deep the roots of sexual exploitation in our personal and cultural histories stretch, and how daunting their complexity is to grasp and untwine. Yet, Mosgofian is able to bring clarity and compassion to all of this in terms we can understand, and with a level of humility that opens our own hearts to a solution rather than condemnation.

In a contemporary and contentious society wrought with woes and worry, family continues to be at solution’s center and remains the focus of this author’s lifework – a lifework where future’s hope is harbored in the spiritual longing for a commitment to recovery in which each of us can ardently participate. Overcoming sexual exploitation is a daunting commitment made more comprehensible and achievable thanks to Peter Mosgofian’s important work. Power, Sex and Shame deserves to be read and discussed widely. Lives depend on it.

I received a review copy from the author in exchange for my personal, unbiased review upon reading.