Melanie Dale - It's Not Fair: Learning to Love the Life You Didn't Choose

Life’s not fair, that’s a certainty. It may be the rain, flu, or unemployment. In Melanie Dale‘s case, it was infertility. Why seem all the women around you getting pregnant, while you’re relying on in vitro fertilization? Dale shares in a popular blog style, tweets, notes, and Facebook posts put into a book her own lessons learned in It’s Not Fair: Learning to Love the Life You Didn’t Choose.

There is no formula for dealing with suffering. Sharing stories build relationships, We need all the help we can get from each other. The book’s energetic, sometimes is hilarious, despite the honest quest to find answers. Humor, food, and learning from others are important, yet not sufficient. The Bible provides lots of stories of infertile women, Psalms, Lamentations, and lives in which protagonists struggle with God, and ask Him the very same questions on fairness. God showed and still shows, that He is listening. He provides answers, often through other people, and opportunities that you couldn’t think of yourself. The hell are the others, heaven as well?

We can learn to love this life we didn’t choose. For Melanie adoption came into the picture, for you it may be the wake-up call to sign up to go serve somewhere and show up. Light up the lives of others to celebrate life, despite the many unfairnesses. The author’s language is raw, enriched with many quotes from movies and celebrities, and mixes scribbles, and live conversation like phrases with Bible study kind of sections as well.

About the author

Melanie Dale is the author of Women Are Scary: The Totally Awkward Adventure of Finding Mom Friends, Melanie is a geek on a God-ride, a minivan mama and total weirdo who stinks at small talk. Her laugh is a combination honk-snort, and it’s so bad that people have moved away from her in the movie theater. She adores sci-fi and superheroes and is terrified of Pinterest. She’s a contributor for Coffee+Crumbs, a panelist on the TV show Moms Everyday, and an advocate for Children’s HopeChest. She’s been featured on Parenting.com, Scary Mommy, Working Mother Magazine, Deadspin’s Adequate Man, and Today’s Christian Woman. Living in the Atlanta area, she blogs at Unexpected.org about motherhood, orphan care, adoption, and sometimes poo.