Back in 2012, I reviewed Stephen Arterburn‘s Healing is a Choice. Every sin, addiction or bad habit needs a personal choice to stop doing it. You can’t simply pray for forgiveness and continue to sin. Some think of the poorly translated “Don’t lead us into temptation” in the Lord’s Prayer, that God is the one leading you in all kinds of temptations, and so He’s the One to solve your problems. When it comes to offline or online pornography, estimates are that 50% of men attending church in the U.S. struggle with porn. That means that if you were to scan a church with 1,000 men in attendance, at least 500 of them are looking at porn on a regular basis. And, keeping up appearances, it’s the neighbour that does, you don’t.
The porn industry is a highly successful business, binding the audience on purpose. The result on the consumer side isn’t not only a waste of time and money, but also betrayed partners, shame and embarrassment. Stephen Arterburn, author of the best-selling book Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time (read chapter one here), developed Starve Your Eyes.
What’s Starve Your Eyes?
“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.” (Job 31:1) “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” (Proverbs 4:23)
To Starve your Eyes means a 30-day challenge for men and the goal is simple: abstain from looking at anything sexually stimulating. God’s word is clear on his plans for our sexual life, including our thoughts and our actions. Society at large, and advertisers in particular, capitalize on the fact that men are visually stimulated. Satan uses that to his advantage – turning our thoughts away from what is pure, allowing the slow drift from God to begin. As a man seeking after the Lord, we challenge you to devote 30 days to behave in a way that is counter-cultural . . . a way that honors God and the women in your life with your sexual integrity. Starve your eyes.
I’m stronger than you think
If you think there’s no problem or that “it’s no big deal”, I’d invite you to take this quick self-assessment and answer a few simple questions to see how you’re doing in this area.
Still not convinced? Maybe one of these TED Talks does the trick
Warning!warning: these videos may disenchant you.