The marriage vow introduces team work. You’re married together. And while there’s room for both “yours”, “mine” and “ours” there’s the chemistry and synergy of being and staying together. Ashleigh Slater and her husband Ted embarked a decade ago and still are proud of their team Slater. In Team Us: marriage together they share their personal journey along the cliffs of pregnancies, a miscarriage, career choices and job loss, communication successes and failures, and all things in between. The book’s fueled with passion, humor, realism and optimism. Ashleigh compares marriage to curling: “Just like curling, marriage is a team effort that can thrive when approached with strategy, intention, and lots of sweeping.”
Intentionally means choices on which friends to keep as influencers, which church to actively join and participate in, and how to align work-life rhythms. Slater stresses the importance of making everyday decisions with long term consequences. Promising ‘Yes, I do” means much more than a joint bank account, shared last name and a common habitat. Staying away from addictions or adultery requires both trust and discipline. Facing the demons in your (spiritual) bed room requires you to pray together, read the Bible and practice your faith together. And when adversaries become reality, e.g. miscarriage or losing your job, fear of moving (again), only team work can do the trick. At the end of every chapter Ashleigh Slater gives the pen to her husband to react. Every now and then, other couples share their story in the book. Gary Chapman, author of the Five Languages of Love, wrote a foreword. “Us Time” discussion questions at the end of each chapter are meant for couples to curl up on the coach and discuss them. Recommended for both newlyweds as well as seasoned couples.
- excerpt of the book (PDF)
- Discussion guide (PDF)
- 10 winning strategies (PDF)
About the author
Ashleigh Slater is the founder and editor of the webzine Ungrind and a regular contributor at Start Marriage Right, For the Family, The Time-Warp Wife, and iBelieve.com, she unites the power of a good story with biblical truth and practical application to encourage couples. She has almost 20 years of writing experience and a master’s degree in communication. Ashleigh and her husband, Ted, have been married for more than a decade. They have four daughters and reside in Atlanta, Georgia.